Part 1
That motor-home barely made it off of Jerry's farm before it broke down. Amanda
had to have it towed to even get it here. Hours after they should have arrived,
she called to say they were stuck at a stranger's farm just down the road from
Jerry's, waiting for a tow truck. I didn't know what to say, a weak "Oh" my
only response. After she hung up, I began thinking of the implications. That was
my first real indicator of the condition of that RV, even though I probably
should have known considering how she got it.
Sitting there after I got
off the phone, thinking about this new information, I wished I had told her she
couldn't tow that RV here. Now I can give you all kinds of reasons why that
would have been appropriate but not then. I just couldn't bring myself to do it.
All I could think of was that poor baby and how much help it needed with parents
like these. If there was any way I could help get them back on track, I had to
try. I knew the odds were slim to none that coming here would change anything
and that we would most likely be better off if they weren't here but I had to
try.
Even now when I think about that phone call I cringe at my choice
and I must remind myself what happened here is on them. They are the ones who
chose to exploit my circumstances and they are the ones responsible for the way
of life they are teaching their baby. What a mess!
In order to tow that
motor-home, the drive line had to be disconnected so when it arrived here it
was incapable of being parked out of the way. It pretty much got left where the
tow rig could maneuver it near the power pole. Dave told Amanda he wanted the
drive line hooked back up ASAP. He did not want that thing sitting there with
the drive shaft touching the ground and since Amanda insisted its problems were
only minor and it could go short distances even without being repaired, there
was no reason for her not to comply. Once it was reconnected, the RV could be
moved to a more reasonable place than where it ended up. The only problem with
that plan was Amanda ignored Dave's request...and his reminders.
That
motor-home was a huge, broken down, moss growing hunk of junk and the first
thing anyone saw coming into my farm and it stayed in that spot the entire 9
months they lived here. Its position actually blocked a portion of my driveway
making it difficult to navigate the corner. My truck and trailer and the
farrier and vet rigs had to drive across part of my lawn to get to the barns due
to the way the thing was parked but Amanda and Darryl didn't notice or care.
They were oblivious to anyone's needs but their own.
If it wasn't bad
enough the way the RV was blocking my driveway and my parking area, Amanda
parked her car just as poorly. Instead of putting it out of the way, she parked
it in front of the RV blocking AND across the sidewalk blocking access to Dave's
parking spot and access to our front porch and the front paddock.. Depending on
her car's location sometimes Dave could maneuver his way between her car and the
RV to get to his parking space in front of our house but other times he was
forced to park on the other side of the driveway near the front field. When it
was parked so Dave could park his car in its normal spot, she parked so far out
it was impossible to lead a horse through there. Amanda's need to park close to
her doorway trumped my husband's desire to park near his own front door or the
stallions' need for turnout.
This may seem like a petty complaint but it
was very upsetting to me and it offended me just as Jessica's leaving Dave out when she fixed dinner. There was room for 2 cars to be parked there in front
of the house if they were pulled up to the log separating the flower bed from
the parking spots. When Amanda chose to disregard the parking area and leave
her car out in the driveway or across the walkway, I saw her behavior as an
indicator of her sense of entitlement as well as her disrespect for what was
being done for them. Dave was paying the bills for the land she was parked on
and she had the audacity to inconvenience him and she interfered with our
ability to turnout horses. I can assure you when she was coming here working her
con to get here that she never once parked in a manner that inconvenienced Dave
or blocked that paddock. She even asked where she should be parking. Obviously
once she was living on our farm, her fake respect flew out the door along with
all of her fake promises. Her treatment of the parking indicative of how she
regarded us in general.
It was bad enough that ugly monstrosity of a
motor-home was left out in the middle of my yard without that equally ugly
Chevette compromising the rest of my front yard. Seeing it parked there like
that felt like Amanda was giving me the finger and shoving it in my face each
and every day......and we were just getting started with Amanda's time on my
farm.
To be continued.......
Nightmares.......and Torture.......
Seriously, WTF! People suck, hopefully this is the last one.
ReplyDeleteIs there a college that has an equine program, a vet school with an animal husbandry program or a 4-H group near you? I'm trying to think of a way for you to get qualified help. If people had supervised internships or good 4-H instructors it could be a win-win situation. They would get course credit/experience doing things the right way (with beautiful horses :) and you could get some decent help for a change. Good luck! Hope you're feeling better.
This is definitely the last one. I doubt I will ever allow someone to live on my farm again. They say "never say never' but this has been my share for a lifetime so something would really have to change for me to decide someone could live here.
DeleteNo vet school on this side of the state and I am not aware of animal husbandry programs anywhere near here. I have tried to check out 4-H programs but didn't even get a call back. It seems to be very "connection" oriented, I am certainly not connected. That's been well proven over this whole thing. Considering all the volunteer time I have given, it's hard to understand.
USPC Pony club? http://www.ponyclub.org/
DeleteIt does seem disrespectful and uncaring of what is the right thing to do. You've had your share of these con artist types to last you a lifetime. Glad this was the last one.
ReplyDeletethings like that are the kind that make you want to just throw a match in and watch the fire! What an impossible b*tch
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